Surprise Weddings, Are They A Thing?

Jen and Justin have just joined the club...


In case you missed it, Jenifer Anniston and Justin Theroux got married last night. And it was a HUGE surprise. Well, as big as something that's had a long engagement can be a suprise. 


The pair join a long list of other celebrities that have also decided to keep their marital matters a secret until the main event; Mila and Ashton, Cameron and Benji, Ange and Brad, Bey and Jay Z.

Of course, the reason why celebs choose to keep it all hush-hush is obvious – it’s to stop the pesky media (aka me) from knowing what’s going on. They want their love to have privacy. 

But surprise weddings – or as, Google tells me they’re called, ambush weddings – can be for us mere mortals too.


A few years back, an old friend invited me to her 30th birthday – a hipster party in a New York loft. ‘Be there by 8pm for there will be an exciting surprise musical performance’ the invite read. 

Dolled-up guests, plus me, arrived promptly – all excited about who our musical treat might be. Naturally, I was hopeful for Lionel Richie.

But when the clock struck 8.30pm, the boyfriend of the birthday girl climbed on to the arm of a velvet sofa and yelled across the crowd, 'Guys, there is no band. We’re getting MARRIED!’

Before any one had time to react, bar a few squeals, a white carpet was rolled through the middle of us all with a canopy placed at the end, Barry White's Can’t Get Enough Of Your Love blasted from the stereo, and out walked the Vera Wang-clad bride (no one had noticed she’d slipped off to change out of her jeans and tee).

It was beautiful ceremony and the night was a hell of a lot of fun; there was dancing and free-flowing alcohol. Plus, it came without any of the usual wedding planning stresses. No overbearing family insisting on the second cousin who smells like the compost bin HAVING to be there. Nor any of those annoying pre-messages from guests asking for the postcode for the 12th time.

But there were some downers: no wedding presents; no cake (!); no morning spent getting ready with your friends. And these little rituals have always been my favourite parts.

And, perhaps most importantly, there’s a good chance you might p*ss off a fair amount of friends and family, who would have perhaps liked to have properly prepared themselves for the wedding. I recall the friend in question's sister being thoroughly stroppy about the fact she’d worn a cardigan to her only sister's wedding.

I wonder if anyone at Jen’s wedding was upset that they’d arrived in a cardi? Probably not. 

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