Ruby Rose saw the story unfold the same way you did: Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston got together one week after Swift announced her breakup with boyfriend of over one year, Calvin Harris. In the two weeks since Hiddleswift's Rhode Island debut, the paparazzi has snapped them meeting each other's parents (in Nashville and England), holding hands on many beaches, and making out at tourist attractions.
Sources tell tabloids they've "fallen for each other very quickly"; that Swift has texted friends that "'I think I am in love and I never felt this way before!"; that Hiddleston "thinks Taylor is the girl he has been searching for." So much, so quickly—and the backlash against that has come just as rapidly (just read the comment section on any article).
But Rose, a friend of Swift's, took to Instagram to make an impassioned appeal to stop judging. "I get it that [people] invest in couples and root for them, and it's sweet, but that relationship is still only between two people," she wrote. "If the relationship ends, why do people assume something happened or someone is to blame? Why do they think they know anything about the relationship, [that they are]...able to make a better call than those in it?"
In fact, we should celebrate—not shame—those who are able to date, trust, and be emotionally vulnerable with someone new so soon, Rose continued. "If a woman moves on from a relationship eight months (or two weeks ) after a breakup, isn't that beautiful? That someone can still continue to open their hearts to people despite [the] times in their lives I'm sure it's been broken. It's not an insult to every ex they have ever had. New love never erases old love. It's a separate thing, a new entity."
Her full, lengthy post, below:
I've noticed something about love in the public eye verses [sic] anyone else's love life. My parents never married and so I never dealt with a divorce but I do remember how many of my friends were effected [sic] by this later in life. I couldn't relate, but I tried to understand why it was hard on them. After 20 years and beautiful kids, they [Ruby's friends' parents] have grown apart and want to do different things.. Seems reasonable... The only way they got over it was by realizing their parents were humans just like them. This in turn started the process of wanting them to move on, be happy, and loved... as life is short.
If you think about an ex you had a great time with, but it came to an amicable end, you can understand sometimes it's just what happens. Or perhaps a partner who died too young. I believe you were meant to spend that time with that person, no one can take that away.. It isn't always meant to last forever. Sometimes they end up a big part of your life for 2 years, others they end up being your best friend.
I feel like this is the mentality fans have on celebrity relationships.. I get it that they invest in couples and root for them and it's sweet, but that relationship is still only between two people. If the relationship ends why do people assume something happened or someone is to blame? Why do they think they know anything about the relationship to be able to make a better call than those in it? Love is a beautiful thing. Some love one person their whole life, others love many, some never find love, and sadly some get so hurt so many times they get broken and stop looking. So if a woman moves on from a relationship 8 months ( or 2 weeks ) after a breakup isn't that beautiful? That someone can still continue to open their hearts to people despite times in their lives I'm sure it's been broken..It's not an insult to every ex they have ever had...new love never erases old love. It's a separate thing, a new entity. You can't change the people you loved just be glad you loved at all they are all lessons and memories and make up our life story. I personally respect all of the people who never get jaded, who always love with their whole hearts. Over and over and I think it's twisted that we shame women for opening their hearts or label it as a weakness when in reality it's one of the scariest things to do. Date who you want, love who you want, love is the most valuable thing in the world and nothing comes remotely close to its significance during our time on this planet. So next time you want to tell me who I should be with or who anyone should be with... Maybe just use that energy to find your love. Because trust me.. We are adults and we know how to follow our hearts.
