I have a confession to make.
I once got so blind drunk after a Friday night pub session with colleagues that my boyfriend had to dress me in my pyjamas, put me to bed and feed me an oven pizza.
Okay, I lie. It wasn't one oven pizza. It was two oven pizzas.
Some may say this is #RelationshipGoals (amid accusations that I'm an idiot, my boyfriend is a legend and oven pizza was a rookie mistake – it should always be Domino's) but, I have a feeling Chrissy Teigen wouldn't be labelling my relationship as such, given her views on the popular social media hashtag.
Now, we all know that Teigen and her husband John Legend are the personification of the term '#RelationshipsGoals'.
After all, this is a man who wrote his hit single 'All of Me' in honor of his lady, admitted he fell in love with the model over the phone, given her 'impressive' and 'clever' way with words, and announced the couple's pregnancy with a post on social media showing him caressing his wife's growing bump.
On Sunday night the mother-of-one got a little bit too drunk at the Grammys and shared a video on Snapchat stories of John's helping her take her jewelry off.
In the video, Chrissy can be seen sitting on the kitchen floor while John attempts to remove her tangled necklace as she asks, 'Are you mad at me?'
However, the next day, the star – who recently made her Sports Illustrated comeback – was quick to point out that a simple act of care and compassion for a loved one doesn't merit the hashtag '#RelationshipGoals'.
On Monday, she tweeted:
To be fair, she has a point.
Of course, no one can deny that Legend's offer to help his wife take off a necklace is kind. But, it's hardly the linchpin of a successful relationship.
While it's often accepted that women care, thank or praise their other halves regularly, men often receive a roaring verbal applause for the same actions, as if they have over exceeded expectations of doing the bare minimum.
Admittedly, we're guilty of this too.
You only have to look at the reaction to Ryan Gosling's Emmy speech when he thanked his 'lady' Eva Mendes for caring for their children while he filmed La La Land, or Barack Obama for praising his wife, Michele, on Twitter after her speech at the Democratic National Convention to see society's obsession with giving a pat on the back to men championing their partners.
However, we must remember that compassionate, loving actions shouldn't be a goal for a successful relationship – it should be the norm.
Katie O'Malley is the Site Director on ELLE UK. On a daily basis you’ll find Katie managing all digital workflow, editing site, video and newsletter content, liaising with commercial and sales teams on new partnerships and deals (eg Nike, Tiffany & Co., Cartier etc), implementing new digital strategies and compiling in-depth data traffic, SEO and ecomm reports. In addition to appearing on the radio and on TV, as well as interviewing everyone from Oprah Winfrey to Rishi Sunak PM, Katie enjoys writing about lifestyle, culture, wellness, fitness, fashion, and more.
