Fitness Blogger Victoria D'Ariano Just Wrote An Open Letter To Her Bum Dimple

Proving that all of us have insecurities

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Victoria D'Ariano has an amazing body. Amazing in that it lets her live and works exactly as it should.

D'Ariano is also incredibly fit. Like, works-out-most-days kinda fit. Has abs fit.

Learning to embrace all the parts of me✨

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And she is also into looking after herself. As in, is working to not define herself by the amount of times she goes to the gym, the number on the scales or the skimpiness of her outfit.

Apparently to be "confident" you have to "show skin." . This is what society does to us. It makes us have rules for everything. So in order for me to be confident in myself and focus on learning to love myself I have to wear certain clothing?! Do you understand how silly this sounds. I go to the gym to work out. If I want to wear minimal clothing I will do so because I WANT to, because I feel good in a certain outfit NOT because society tells me I have to. This just goes back to why body image issues start. In order for me to be confident I must wear what they tell me to wear so I can get their "approval" and then they can tell me I can now be confident... isn't this what we are trying to get away from? The feeling that we "need" to look a certain way? That we need to fit into this "box" of what we should look like? NO. These are the steps I have been making to improve and have absolutely NOTHING to do with showing skin in the gym to "prove" I have made progress. If you want to show skin DO it BUT because YOU want to. If you don't, then DON'T. What about these things...they don't matter?! - Not feeling the need to workout or else I will get "fat" - Not feeling the need to weigh myself everyday and being upset if the scale goes up. - Not feeling the need to look "super fit" so I can be considered a "fitness" person. - Not feeling the need to restrict my calories so I won't gain weight. - Not obsessing over what I look like 24/7. - Not letting the way my body looks affect my mood and ruin the entire day. - Not constantly bringing myself down because I don't look a certain way. - Not constantly comparing myself to others and wishing I were them. All of those things are what I used to do EVERY SINGLE DAY. I have days now that I feel like I've overcome these things, I feel happy and in such a great place mentally. And then other days I feel like I am back to square one and have not made any progress at all. Why? Because I am LEARNING and have not yet mastered this. I find more days than not are good and that means I have made progress. Overcoming these thoughts are what will make me "CONFIDENT" NOT wearing a certain outfit to the gym. #couragetobeyou

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Essentially, Victoria is all about holistic wellness, with feeling good being the centre of her ethos.

In this vein, she started a new hashtag and series of photos under the name 'Courage to be you'.

Courage to be YOU. This is the name of my new series and I couldn’t be more excited. It took a long time for me to find the right name and this is what I felt was right. I was 12 years old when I had my first anxiety attack. My brother had broken his arm and I was so worried about him that something happened. My chest tightened, my heart was beating so fast, I couldn’t breathe. I thought I was dying. I remember lying on the ground, crying and screaming at the top of my lungs to my dad to call 911, as I thought I was dying. This had been the scariest moment of my life. Since then I struggled with anxiety, it translated into performance anxiety where I would have a full-blown panic attacks during my races. I would blame it on an asthma attack because I couldn’t understand what was happening to me, I thought I had something seriously wrong with me. I continued to struggle with this throughout my teens and into University. I tried so many treatments, therapy, medication, hypnosis and nothing seemed to work. I ended up quitting swimming, as the work I was putting in wasn’t translating into my racing due to this. Along with anxiety I have been dealing with depression and body image issues since the age of 15, however I wasn’t diagnosed as being clinically depressed and medicated until I was 18. I grew up as an athlete and in good shape. Once I hit puberty my body changed drastically and I remember I was extremely self-conscious of it, I had hips, curves, cellulite. At this time I also changed mentally. I never understood how I could train so hard but still have these hips and cellulite. The other girls had square frames and had no fat. It made me again think something was wrong with me. Once I was 18, the depression got really bad. I had these thoughts that I couldn’t shake off, I became a different person and this again made me feel like something was wrong with me. I honestly thought I was just doomed to live my life feeling this way. That thought made me even more depressed. This depression consumed me. See all of this I just shared with you? I haven’t told anyone except my close family and my psychiatrist these things. I am sharing this with you Continued👇🏻

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At the end of May, she posted a photo of herself, back to the camera, showing off the difference in her bum in different lighting and posing. But this wasn't a simple 'everyone has bad angles' post. Instead, Victoria wrote an open letter, to her bum dimple.

A similar post to last week but I am overcoming an insecurity of mine. . Dear Butt Dimple, I remember the first day you appeared. I was 15 years old. Since then you have had a hugely negative impact on my life. Since then you have made me feel less about myself. You not only made me feel fat, but also unworthy. You have always had an impact on what I chose to wear. I would avoid certain bikinis, and even some of my favorite leggings. I would never feel confident in a bikini because I thought everyone was staring at you. I would never wear my favorite leggings because again I always thought people were starting at you. Long shirts were my go-to as it was a way I could cover you up and have a moment of peace within my mind as no one would be judging you. I remember endless hours of looking at you in the mirror, squeezing you and wondering why I had you. I remember crying of embarrassment as other girls I was friends with didn’t have you. I would exercise extra hard in hopes you would go away. I would eat better also in hopes you would go away. I even considered cellulite treatments so you would finally just go away. You never did, you still haven’t. You took a lot of joy away from me, you caused a lot of stress for me, you made me insecure and took away my confidence. I could never feel in shape as you were always there. I am writing you today to tell you I have finally stopped letting you win. You will no longer make me feel unworthy, not good enough or not in shape because of you. I will no longer be afraid to wear certain bathing suits or leggings because of you. I will no longer hide you. You are what you are and I have finally come to peace with that. I have finally accepted you. ✨when I reflect back on this I realize how stupid it is to have let something this superficial have an impact on my life but it did. I am happy that I have been able to overcome this and I hope if you have a similar struggle you can realize that you too can and will. Don't let things of such insignificance ever take away your happiness. #fuckthedimple #freethebooty #couragetobeyou ❤️

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It read:

Dear Butt Dimple, I remember the first day you appeared. I was 15 years old. Since then you have had a hugely negative impact on my life. Since then you have made me feel less about myself. You not only made me feel fat, but also unworthy. You have always had an impact on what I chose to wear. I would avoid certain bikinis, and even some of my favorite leggings. I would never feel confident in a bikini because I thought everyone was staring at you. I would never wear my favorite leggings because again I always thought people were staring at you. Long shirts were my go-to as it was a way I could cover you up and have a moment of peace within my mind as no one would be judging you. I remember endless hours of looking at you in the mirror, squeezing you and wondering why I had you. I remember crying of embarrassment as other girls I was friends with didn't have you. I would exercise extra hard in hopes you would go away. I would eat better also in hopes you would go away. I even considered cellulite treatments so you would finally just go away. You never did, you still haven't. You took a lot of joy away from me, you caused a lot of stress for me, you made me insecure and took away my confidence. I could never feel in shape as you were always there. I am writing to you today to tell you I have finally stopped letting you win. You will no longer make me feel unworthy, not good enough or not in shape. I will no longer be afraid to wear certain bathing suits or leggings because of you. I will no longer hide you. You are what you are and I have finally come to peace with that. I have finally accepted you.

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Victoria has suffered with depression and anxiety since she was 12 (though she wasn't formally diagnosed with depression until she was 18).

Making peace with her bum dimple is a sign of larger change within our society. That your body, and all the things that make is special and unique, should not dictate how you feel.

Moving my hair and not thinking about the "perfect" angle. Standing straight (with a bad case of lordosis) Posing. I took a little break from posting these types of photos because I was afraid it would upset people, afraid to upset different communities. The truth of the matter is that I don't need to belong to one community or another I can simply be me and just share my journey. Some won't agree, and I am learning that this is okay. I am sharing my story, MINE. It doesn't have to meet someone else's approval or someone else's guidelines. It doesn't need to be placed in one group or another. There doesn't need to be a standard that you feel you must hold yourself up to. It's not about one picture looking "bad" or another looking good" it's about showing beauty in someone being okay with themselves. This is about learning that there doesn't have to be two sides, no reason to label something different as it is just one. It's not about proving one point over another...or making a point at all. It's about being real and not having to choose to show just the "societal accepted parts" but ANY parts you want. Remember. You can be anyone you want to be. You might be pushed in a direction of what you are "supposed to be" but it doesn't mean you have to follow that direction. You can learn to be comfortable as any person in this world...not because someone told you that you can (because this will never happen) but because you gave YOURSELF permission to be. You will not always be someone's cup of coffee, but remember you are the one who will spend the rest of your life drinking it. And I'm not sure about you, but I want to wake up every morning enjoying the cup of coffee I drink. #couragetobeyou

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Despite Victoria having a pretty ideal figure, this post shows that insecurity, anxiety and depression don't discriminate, she explained to HuffPost,

For those who have ever had body image issues they can relate and this sheds light on the topic and makes them feel like aren't alone. These people react positively as this photo helps them. For those who don't understand the severity of mental health and the implications it can have on things, they see this as stupid, and thus react negatively. '[Some people] view women like myself, who have insecurities, body image issues and other mental health problems as 'privileged.' People want to compare struggles, they don't think that if you look a certain way or live a certain life you should be able to have struggles. 'Unfortunately for a lot of people, myself included, mental health issues don't discriminate. You can have the best of everything in the world but if you have these problems it won't matter and this is what people fail to understand.

“What are you trying to do be fat or lean?” This was the gist of a comment I got yesterday and I decided to not let it get to me in a negative manner but to turn it into a positive an just explain myself, my thoughts and feelings towards these “trending” pictures. I usually eat ‪around 5-6‬ meals a day two of which are huge salads, that on top of 3-4L of water that I consume I don’t walk around with a empty/flat tummy and definitely not flexed abs. I am usually somewhat bloated due to this. These pictures and videos aren’t about trying to look “bad” it’s about showing the fact that I don’t walk around sucking in, holding my breath, standing up super straight, flexing my abs and sticking out my ass. It’s not about one way looking good and the other looking bad. It’s about me allowing others who DON’T UNDERSTAND the difference to see that posing and/or flexing makes a HUGE difference. I also wanted to make a few more things clear: I am far from “fat” not sure who gets to determine this anyway, but this is why women in today’s societies have body image issues and eating disorders, because when they look like “this” society tells them they are “fat.” Secondly, who are you as a person to tell someone that? To tell a woman, how they should look. Again, this goes hand in hand to why women have body image issues in today’s society. Thirdly, yes body positively and these pictures are trending, I get it, it annoys a lot of people. I remember when I first got into fitness and it was “newly trending” I started posting lots about my workouts, the gym, eating clean and I got a lot of backlash. People talked about me behind my back, made numerous comments, assumptions and what not. It did get to me at first, but instead of stopping what I was doing I kept going because I chose to follow my heart as I loved what I was doing and I believed in it. Four years later almost every single one of those people who made fun of me have approached me for advice or have said I have had a positive impact on their fitness goals. This reminds me of that period in my life, and I remember having two choices to stop doing what I am doing because it’s just a “trend” CONTINUED IN COMMENTS👇🏻👇🏻

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Essentially, Victoria is inspiring women to be who they are.

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