A Man Advised Parents To Teach Their Daughters How To Say 'No' But The Internet Had Other Ideas

Though Will Saletan was referencing workplace conversation, the wider context of gender imbalance was clear.

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Not a couple of days, ago the world was set alight by Maxine Waters' most recent 'slay' moment as she told a Trump advisor that she was 'reclaiming my time'.

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Watching a black, female politician successfully dominate a male member of the Trump administration, for many, seriously thrilling.

The clip that surfaced of Californian Representative and black caucus member Waters was particularly welcomed after multiple instances of black women like Kamala Harris being interrupted during Senate Intelligence Committee hearings.

There were many responses to Waters' 'reclaiming my time' statements, largely to the tune of 'yaaaaassss'.

For some reason, National Correspondent at Slate, Will Salaten, decided to respond to Maxine Waters' epic come-back moment by suggesting that, as well as teaching women to 'reclaim their time,' we should also be teaching women when and where to say 'no'.

And he meant it in the context of saying no to men's unwanted advances.

Clarifying his point, he said: 'Men sense women's willingness to yield. Make clear you mean business.'

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Though he was responding particularly to workplace conflicts and it did, of course, come from a good place, many were quick to point out that it really shouldn't be a woman's job to say 'no' because men have failed to read the signals.

Hundreds of people responded to Will's Tweet saying that better advice would be for parents to teach their sons to listen to women and react accordingly, instead of having to teach young women to fight for air time or, even more worryingly, to fight for their non-consent to be heard in a sexual situation.

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Unfortunately, Will failed to see the correlation between professional gender dynamics and wider rape culture, calling people's concern for his statement, 'Outrage Twitter'.

He explained that even though it might be ideal for men to be taught to respect and listen to women, it is realistic that they don't, and we should prepare in the meantime.

Of course Will is right in saying that we should teach our daughters the power of dominance and assuredness. Both Blake Lively and Sheryl Sandberg have recently spoken out about the importance of teaching girls to lead and not shame them for being 'bossy'.

However, we also know that there is evidence suggesting male attitudes actively keep women from getting ahead in business. As well as the fact that women are sexually assaulted whether they violently and forcefully oppose or not.

So whilst teaching girls to be authoritative is a great idea, it is unfair to suggest it is their responsibility to ensure men don't 'sense' their 'willingness to yield', and instead teach that 'no' means 'no', no matter what the volume, strength or tone of the word.

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