Do you ever feel like you're a little drowned out in group social situations? As though you could do with conveying a little more charisma? Luckily, we've stumbled upon a very clever - and more importantly, EASY, - trick to help you out.
The 'two second rule' works in smaller social situations, ideally where there's just two of you in a conversation. But once you've mastered it and feel like you're at the top of your charisma-exuding game, it could give you the confidence you need in all social situations.
Created by Stephen Andrews from Dumb Little Man, it really is simple. All you do is count for two seconds in your head before replying to something a person has said.
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Why? There are two reasons:
Communicating genuine interest
As soon as you start pausing for two seconds prior to speaking, you'll begin to realise how frequently we cut off one another's sentences. On many occasions, the person talking probably hadn't finished their sentence before you interjected. But by pausing, you give them the space to finish completely, which conveys a sense that you really are interested in what they have to say. This naturally makes you come across in a more positive light.
Giving off an air of confidence
Although it doesn't sound it, in the midst of a conversation, two seconds is actually a fairly long time. So as Stephen points out, your momentary pause 'creates a moment of tension between the end of their thought and your reply'. Because the natural flow of conversation is often that it overlaps from person-to-person, you subtly communicate a confidence and power by your lack of fear about a brief silence.
Words: Catriona Harvey-Jenner
From Good Housekeeping UK