The 39 Things That Make You A Gentlewoman

How to be a really good egg


Country Life magazine has published its 39 steps for being a modern gentleman (which includes knowing how to train a dog and a rose and being good with waiters). But we at ELLE think chivalry; charm and exceptional manners are just as dashing female characteristics as they are male. So here's our guide to being a modern Gentlewoman. How many do you tick?

1. Helps strangers carry pushchairs or suitcases downstairs


2. Can assemble an IKEA Billy Bookshelf in under 3 hours

3. Holds doors open for other women

4. Knows when not to tweet what she's thinking

5. Possesses at least one killer black dress

6. Refrains from interrupting others

7. Can make supper when there's just an avocado, jar of capers and bottle of Prosecco in the fridge

8. Does not wear flesh coloured tights

9. Makes actual telephone calls to friends

10. Uses the flamenco dancer emoji sparingly


11. Knows how to politely send back under-par food in restaurants

12. Has a good firm handshake

13. Is neither too late or too early

14. Does not eat lunch at her desk

15. Asks 'what are you into?' not 'what do you do?'

16. Makes her own canapés for parties

17. Flirts with men and women

18. Does relevant 'voices' when reading books to children

19. Is not a fussy eater

20. Says 'thank you' when complimented

21. Dances even if badly

22. Drinks whisky

23. Knows when to leave a party

24. Knows when to not leave a party

25. Doesn't 'vape'

26. Has read The Golden Notebook

27. Is nice to the interns

28. Calls herself a feminist

29. Can make a speech

30. Can make a soufflé

31. Doesn't complain about lowcost airlines

32. Writes thank you cards

33. Plays board games

34. Can do at least three different swimming strokes

35. Does not understand Snapchat and does not care.

36. Orders pudding

37. Match-makes friends

38. Reads one actual newspaper every day

39. Knows when to rip up the rulebook

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