How to ‘propose’ to your bridesmaids

Yes, really


By Amy Lawrenson

Three times a bridesmaid never a bride, so the saying goes. It looks like it’s true: my boyfriend of seven years has no interest in marriage whatsoever. I’m set to be a bridesmaid for the fourth time next year, the nail is firmly stuck in that coffin. Luckily, I don’t feel too hard done by. You see my last two requests to be a bridesmaid have felt quite like proposals in themselves.


The first bride, Simone, didn’t ask me in person - instead, a very large and very lightweight box arrived in the office one afternoon and nestled inside was a heart-shaped, helium-filled balloon that rose out of the box asking for my hand in… oh no, wait, asking me to be a bridesmaid. She had handwritten on the balloon, had it filled with helium and couriered to ELLE HQ. Awesome.


(Note how excited Joely looks!)

My next invite came just last week. A small box plastered in tape emblazoned with FRAGILE sat on the shelf in my hallway when I arrived home after work. Again it was light as air. I opened it and inside was a small Tiffany-blue egg with hand painted white spots all over it. A tag read ‘open me’.


I cracked open the egg and inside was a miniature scroll of brown paper.

Stamped on it were the words ‘Will you be my bridesmaid? Love Julianne’.

I felt a bit like Alice in Wonderland and I’m still confused as to how the scroll got inside the egg – all very ship in a bottle. Apparently so is Julianne: when I asked how she did it she replied, ‘Etsy’.

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