The 'wedding' hashtag has reached 65million. Mia Goth and Shia LeBeouf live streamed their nuptials last week. And you can now hire social media wedding photographers who promise to keep your followers updated every 15 minutes throughout the day. It seems you need to have to have some idea of how you want to use social media on your big day. Here's some (I) do's and don'ts.

Hand over your phone

No one wants a picture of a bride staring at a screen and chances are you probably don't have a bag or a pocket to keep it in. It's your day to be in the photos not taking them, embrace it.

The dress embargo

No pictures online until after the ceremony. Don't let the bridesmaids' Instagram pictures of you all in a taxi on the way to the ceremony be how your partner first sees your outfit.

Celebrate your other half

There is nothing more confusing than the 'happy' couple who only post pictures of themselves on their big day. #mydress #meandmybridesmaids

Smile

It's not a fashion shoot. People want to see happy, not posed photo face.

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Live social media walls

Imagine the pressure on the speeches if the guests can see live tweets during them? Gulp.

The #

Yes a hashtag is naff, but guys, make it easy for the stalkers. For strict adherence print it on the order of service and pop it at the bottom of the food menu.

The #tbt

You're allowed to do this twice: Once the week following the wedding and the next time on your year anniversary. Don't make everyone relive your day ever after.

The uninvited

They will comment. You don't have to reply.

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Gisele Bündchen on her wedding day, as shared to her Instagram account

Guests, there are rules for you too:

Edit

You can post one picture, two at a push, of the happy couple looking absolutely excellent and taken early on in the day. Posting a whole series is weird. Posting drunk selfies taken in the loo of you and the bride won't be appreciated when they keep floating to the top of their Instagram hashtag.

Be generous

Make the wedding look great. Crop out the portoloos. Take a Kinfolk style pic of your placename. Make sure the Mother of the bride looks wonderful, even if she's just a background accessory to your #service selfie.

Don't get in the way of the professional
shots

Don't be the person holding an iPhone in the brides face in the first dance picture. You don't have to capture everything especially if they've paid someone to do exactly that. Enjoy the moment.

Be nice

And yes, presence is presents, but remember there is no kinder gift than making sure you only post absolutely stunning photos of the bride and groom. Not mid mouthful, never after crying and always before the bottom of the wedding dress becomes a sodden grey mess.

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Alex Holder
Acting Content Director at ELLE UK. I google myself. I'm not a natural blonde. I pout when I pass a reflective surface. I'm constantly paranoid I'm a bad feminist.